Stage 1: The come on
This behaviour tells the person that you are interested in them:- Turn completely towards the person you are interested in
- Lean forward so that you are nearly touching
- Maintain prolonged eye-contact
Sub-consciously you will start to display the following signs, indicating interest:
- Your voice will become lower
- Your breathing will increase
- Your skin will flush
Stage 2: The pull back
If you are sure that the person you're interested in is responding to your come-on it's time to introduce stage 2: The pull back.
Slightly withdraw from the object of your affections - this will make him or her unsure of their potential success and keen not to miss out on what's on offer:
- Look away
- Lower your eyelids
- Use your hand to hide your expression
Stage 3: The block off
You don't want the person you are flirting with to pull back as well so you need to combine the pull-back with the block off!
The purpose of the block off is to ensure that they focus on you and you alone:
- Change your position so your body blocks the person off from everyone else in the vicinity.
- Men tend to stretch their legs out and women often use hand movements to create a barrier between the two of you and the rest of the room.
- Use the person's name in conversation as this focuses their attention.
Stage 4: The promise
This is a tiny hint of where things could go from here.- Touch him or her when you pass them something
- Touch your face or put your fingers through your hair
So now you've got them hooked! Make sure you judge the situation and pace your next moves accordingly.
Good luck!
