Dear Anne
I am a 20 year old bloke and I have recently started seeing a new girl. Whenever we kiss or cuddle, I get excited very easily, and so almost constantly have an erection when alone with her. This over-excitedness continues when having sex and I find that I can only last a couple of minutes. I am nervous that this could put strain on our relationship, and apart from that, I would like to enjoy longer sex. How can I overcome this problem? Bob
Dear Bob
Congratulations on having an exciting new girlfriend! I do appreciate your problem but it needn't cause unhappiness. For one thing, with that level of arousal it shouldn't be too long before you're ready to start again, and most girls would love that so you have an obvious advantage.
If premature ejaculation worries you, there are two useful tactics you can employ. One is to masturbate to orgasm shortly before seeing her. Another is to focus from time to time on something unsexy during lovemaking, such as a warthog or soggy fish and chips. This can dampen your ardour enough to prolong your enjoyment. Alternatively it may be that if your partner goes on top she can time her strokes in ways that don't induce your orgasm so readily. It's worth remembering too that you don't have to have penetrative sex to please a woman.
Manual and oral stimulation can be just as effective in giving your girlfriend pleasure after your own orgasm. In any case, I bet your girlfriend is quite flattered by the effect you have on her, particularly if an early orgasm isn't the end of your mutual pleasure. Have fun with this one, and don't worry!
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